Sunday, March 8, 2009

LIFE : WHY MARRIAGES END?



Marriages are known to be a lifetime commitment towards love & caring among people. However most marriages these days seem to be failing due to the increasing number of problems with the modern world. When these marriages end, the effects can be devastating. Why do people get married? Well it is a known tradition in humanity that a woman and man will come together and live their lives as one. The most important element that seems to have disappeared is love. Not just any love, but true, deep feeling love. To keep a relationship clear, the love itself should be clear, not artificially placed. If there is no well defined understanding of love, then is should obviously not be a marriage. In some traditions, they have what is known as an arranged marriage. This is the process where love is somewhat “forced” to exist between 2 people.

The usual process goes like this: two people meet, find out if they are compatible or not, then engage themselves for marriage. This is a typical procedure but why should they rush into it if they are not aware of the affects that would arise if the marriage were to break apart? Sometimes everything could be on the right track until someone has to cause a slight problem. These problems accumulate and can make a disaster of what was supposed to be a lifetime commitment.

Financial problems can also end a good marriage. This cause leads to fights on spending too much money, making a bad investment, and purchasing useless things. Being stingy can also be another bad reason. No matter what the reason is, the causes of failing marriages & divorces are practically endless, and so are the effects. It’s amazing on how little effort the effects need to destroy what is supposed to be “lifetime happiness”.

There are several other reasons why marriages end; yet the most devastating are the unexpected problems such as health deterioration. Several families have a sick parent that could be dying. In this case the parent that is not ill should be courteous and take care of their partner in love, but modern days give women to be their own spirit that would rather get a new life than stay with a husband that will sooner or later die. People these days are very selfish and they would rather continue their life without depression.

Some people believe that the main reason for marriage is to have children, and if there is no potential of having children, then why should they stay together?Some effects of failing marriages are among the splitting couple, but the worst bit is the children. Children suffer the most especially when they are young because they are being pulled left and right by parents. The love they get is coming from two different directions, and the kids may end up getting into heavy drugs. To some people marriages could be better if they are over

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Seldom that dreams and wishes come true in life...